Christianity QA

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Although I haven’t had a hyst. it’s only a matter of time until I do.  I’m in my mid-thirties and would have killed to have a baby at one time.  I stressed my husband out about it to the point that everytime a baby commercial comes on t.v. I see panic in his eyes.  He also throw out the newpaper birth annoucements and if I get invited to a  babyshower he tries to make plans to keep me busy or forget it completly.  My endometriosis  has not just affect me physcially but mentally wore him down.  I know it hurts but and it hard at times.  Maybe there is no light at the end of the tunnel we in but at least we’re not alone.  Daily I get up and do things I enjoy , things I could never do with a baby on my hip. Just learn to live again, enjoy the people in your life you do have, and find things that make you happy. I took a job. go to cooking school, study accounting and baby my pets. I also take my spouse away for weekend when ever I feel like it. It’s easily to get someone to watch my dog than to have someone watch a child. God bless you. CaroleJ. **** Posted from RemarQ – http://www.remarq.com – Discussions Start Here ™ ****

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I really need to hear from those who had hyst. and have no children. I am having such a hard time with this since my surgery. I cry every day over the fact that now I regret this more than ever and I am constantly living with "why didn’t I stop this surgery" now it’s too late and I am so unhappy. I am now on a sedative, stopped eating, and I feel as though my world has been turned upside down. I am living in constant regret–and I desperatly want to be happy. But I can’t seem to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I know there are people who didn’t mind having this done to them because they didn’t want children in the first place. I guess I am just reaching out to anybody who will listen. thank you jules

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I have three children and just had ahysterectomy and oophorectomy (both ovaries removed) and feel like you–total regret. What a nightmare this has turned into emotionally. Did you have ovaries removed also? One thing that helps me is to realize is that I have to move past the regret because it won’t change anything and try to some things now that will change my emotional outlook. Like reaching out to others in a similar plight. We should let as many people know how this affected us as possible. Also what can we do to improve our emotions, exercise, diet, hormone replacement therapy, support groups etc. I feel depressed and anxious, like my world is upside down as well from losing all my hormones at once and wishing I had never had the surgery but each time I start feeling really horrible and after I have cried about it I start reading a book, watching a movie, working in the yard, visiting people. Sit outside in the evening. Forcing myself to get out there. Please read the book. Please read the book "Real Magnolias" by Becky Freeman, stories of how a lot of women got through various crisies. It is put out by Thomas Nelson Publishers. Probably can be found at a Christian book store. It was sent to me and it really lifted me up. Hope this helps.  

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 My heart is breaking for you……I just read your post. I feel so sad inside. I havent had a hyst……but I am crying"with you".Please know that.Can I ask you how old you are? Did the surgery……at least take away the pain of endo? ((HUGS)) ~Ronna

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